20 Tricky Questions to Ask After Getting Engaged

• January 27, 2022

After the engagement, you might ask many questions that may annoy or irritate you. Here are some questions and their answers to help you out with sticky situations.

1. How did he/she propose?

After announcing your engagement, you heard this question about a hundred thousand times. Everyone wants to know your romantic love story and how it started. And you feel a bit tired after repeating the same story a hundred times.

After repeating such times, you may get annoyed by this question. To avoid this, try to tell the story in a new way and all detail you forget. In this way, your interest is built up again and, you live that precious moment once again.

2. Were you are expecting him/her to purpose?

This question is right comes after the proposal story. The listener starts a guessing game either you already know about the purpose, or it was a surprise.

The reason behind the question is everyone wants to know are prepared for this? or did he/she talk you about marriage before purposed.

Well, the answer to this question reveals many things not for the listeners, even for yourself. May you dig out the hidden love and reasons to say yes for this purpose. You fall in love again while telling the story of how you are surprised.

3. Do you love the ring?

It is a kind of tricky question you have to answer very wisely. You can share the lovely story behind the ring. That is how you choose this ring before the engagement in a shop. And your fiance surprised you with this ring.

Or you can tell about the sentiments attached to this ring. It is his grandmother's ring and how you feel when he purposes you with this ring. And if you feel easy, you can even share your emotion towards the ring.

4. Are you sure he/she is the one?

Even if you spend months and years together, you might hear this question too. When it comes to marriage, most people are pessimistic. But they would not dare to say don't do the wedding to the newly engaged couple.

Instead, they say why you are in so rush and getting married so early. You have to answer this question very politely. The answer must be short and precise that reflect your love.

5. But you are so young?

Well, this is a kind of annoying question but, you might hear this too. Most people think marriage is a big responsibility and you should be mature enough when you are getting married. They may be right about the consequences of getting married too early at a young age.

But you have to answer this question with logical and emotional aspects. You can tell them you want to spend your whole life with this person and you never know how much everyone can live. Also, you have more time to know each other if you are married at a young age.

6. Why such a long/short engagement?

Most people want to know each and every detail about your wedding. They are interested in your relationship and bonding. Many of them think that long-time engagement can work smoothly with relationship strength. While most of them don't like it, they say the longer you are engaged, the more conflicts you have.

The better answer for both kinds of people is to say you need that much time for your dream wedding. And either long or short, whole life is less to love and know each other.

7. When and where are you getting married?

It is the first most question asked after you are engaged. Everyone is so excited to know about the wedding. What is the date you are going to choose? Either it is in summer or winter wedding.

What is your dream location for the wedding? Are you planning for a destination wedding or have a local ceremony. Gently answer these questions and tell them you haven't decided yet. It takes a lot of time and energy to plan your wedding so, don't take the pressure.

8. Are you excited about starting your wedding planning?

People are eager to know how the process is proceeding. They don't want to overwhelm you to jump to start planning. All they want to know is you are ready for that. What are the options you are choosing for your wedding like, venue and vendors?

Some of them want to help you with your wedding planning. So the simple answer the question with yes and politely hear the suggestions. Maybe they have something that can help you.

9. What are you wearing at your wedding?

The question is so fascinating as well as tricky too. You might have an idea about what you are wearing at your wedding. What is the look you want on your big day but haven't ensemble picked out yet?

They do this question because they want to come with you shopping. The better answer is to say you are going with your mother or best man. It ensures that you are having a family and friends-only trip.

10. How many people are you invited? Am I invited?

The question can create a sticky situation when the asking person has not been invited to the wedding. The better answer will be telling about your budget and your venue.

You can say that once you settle down with the budget and select a venue, you can go for the guest's list. Everyone has many expectations and, breaking them is so inhuman and rude. Play safe and be nice to them.

11. How much are you spending on your wedding?

This question may come from the noisy guests. Asking about your finances is seriously rude, but unfortunately, you have to answer this. They want to know you have a grand wedding at a famous destination or a little gathering at a local church or on your back lawn.

You are going to wear a designer dress or your mother's wedding dress. Do you hire a wedding planner or not? How much do you spend on everything?

12. Are your parents will pay for most of the wedding?

It is always a bit uncomfortable when any question has asked related to your wedding budget. So it is better to give an indirect answer and be as vague as possible. A clear answer put the conversation to an awkward end.

You can say, these are your parent and very happy at your wedding. They will contribute with an amount with their ease. The amount is not your concern. But their blessings and love are always there to support you at the wedding.

13. Who is going to be at your wedding party?

It is almost impossible to make everyone happy at your wedding. It is a bit tricky when choosing your wedding party if you have a large group of friends. The best response to this question will depend on your relationship with the person asking.

If the person is not close to you, the honest answer will be good. Like we decided to have a small wedding party including just my sisters and my childhood friend. And for those how are close to your heart, please them with a suitable reason. Compensate them while inviting to your wedding dress appointments or asking them to do a reading at your ceremony.

14. Can I bring plus one?

This tricky question will sure affect your wedding budget but, you should have to tackle it gently. The direct no might hurt the person and, it sounds too rude.

You can say politely that the venue has less capacity for the guests and can accommodate a certain number of guests.

15. Can I bring my kids too?

Wedding with kids can be a delicate issue.

While there is absolutely nothing wrong with hosting a child-free wedding, you will be careful about how you respond to these guests.

Most parents will be appreciative to have a night away event from their little ones. But others may expect to keep their children with them. Keep your answer simple and to the point and, don't feel to apologize or justify your decision. Clearly say we have decided to host an adults-only celebration so everyone can chill out.

16. Will you be changing your last name?

The question is a bit personal but, some people really want to know that. Changing surname after getting is not a big issue but, most people think it is.

The answer to this question is based on your choice whether you want to change or not. Say that you are keeping your surname and watch the reaction.

17. Can I do your flowers and cake?

Wedding planning is a tiring process and, it is generous if someone offers their services. Your loved one wants to share your workload and be part of the happiest day of your life. But they don't have a particular style you want.

So be gracious with your response, and be sure to thank them for their kindness. Say thank you and tell you already organized someone to take care of that so they can enjoy with you.

18. Are you going on a wedding diet?

It is never acceptable to ask if someone is going on a Diet. The question is irritating and much personal. The bride-to-be needs to lose weight before the wedding is an inappropriate assumption.

It is her choice what she wants to look like in her wedding dress. After all, a wedding is a dream day for every girl. She has so many emotions attached to her looks on the big day. So asking such questions can hurt her sentiment and make her feel pity. If someone asks this question, you have the perfect excuse to exclude them from the guest list.

19. Where are you going for your honeymoon?

This question is not too difficult to answer, but some people want to know about that. They want to know what your plans are for your honeymoon. What places are you considering? Are you looking for a romantic destination or adventure getaway?

You can answer the question if you feel free to share the details. It might be helpful in a way if they already visit that place. They might have a better review than the actual website. You can also learn tips and know the famous place for a visit in that particular area.

20. When are you going to have a baby?

This question is not only cringy and deeply personal, but it is also disturbing. Some people will immediately assume that children will come next after exchanging the rings. Some people do not want children right after marriage due to their financial or personal issues. And not everybody can have children that are so upsetting for the couples. The better answer to the question is to say we are focusing on our wedding for now.